Below is a great quote & video by an expert who knows best.
After all, you both work hard at living the life you do. You deserve it :-)
"Do you know how to get your lover – mind, body and soul, to crave your essence?
Well stop thinking, and start learning!
The human mind and body are constantly exposed to stress, and as we know stress dulls the mind and senses. It is simply – sensory overload and the and mind and body shut down to compensate.
By taking the time to envelope my lover's body with amazing sensations I discovered that I could reduce their stress levels (as well as mine!) , lift mood, create a sizzling erotic experience, give incredible pleasure, and induce a state of the deepest relaxation. All while exploring every inch of their body.
Within this deep and profound relaxation – touch, pleasure, intimacy, seduction and arousal were all increased 10, 20, 50x over.